Nagarathar Dowry System MUST Change

What can YOU Do?
 

1.      Firmly believe that marriage is a sacred union.  It is not a trade or business.

2.      Continue to carry on all traditions, but beware of stressors such as “Murai”, “Saamaan Parapputhal”, “Pinmurai” etc. that are carried out in the name of tradition.

3.      If you have an unmarried son, resolve that there will not be any mention of “Sreethanam-Dowry” or “Murai” during the alliance talks.  If you ARE the son, take a firm stand (with your parents and others) that your wedding will not include any pre-negotiated financial or material transactions.

4.      Make conscious attempts to NOT link financial / material demands to a marriage.  If you want to share your wealth with your daughter, do it through your Will or after the wedding - NOT as part of the "terms" of agreement.  Also ensure that this information is not shared with the public - "Do not ask -Do not tell"

5.      If the marriage is arranged, try your best to marry within your means.  On the other hand, believe that we are all equal.  "Stratum" in society is temporal - it comes and goes.

6.      Learn to appreciate and encourage youth and parents of youth who come forward to marry without any dowry.  Trust that nothing is physically or mentally wrong with them.

7.      If you are involved in an alliance (helping to find a groom or a bride) share the fact that the Indian Government does not encourage this practice.

8.      Educate Nagarathar youth, in whatever way you can, about the history of this practice and why it is not relevant for the current times.